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Guest Post – Mother of the Bride Speaks Out! (Part 1)

I would describe raising Jennifer Giglio as what I imagine it would feel like to compete in the bucking bronco competition at a rodeo! What a ride it was! But how happy I am now that I survived the experience for she has developed into a wonderful daughter and friend.  My friend, Peggy (Jenny’s adopted aunt), quoting Albert Camus, always said that what didn’t kill us would make us stronger and she was right. I’m a better person because of having Jenni in my life.

The thing I noticed about Jennifer when she first starting dating Alex was how CONTENT she seemed. Growing up for her was stressful, confusing and she was always driven, never seeming to be able to appreciate her accomplishments or the moment she was in. And, though she was certainly moving toward a more relaxed view of the world (for Jenni), when she found Alex she seemed more genuinely happy and at peace than I had ever seen her. As her mother, I’m so blessed that she has really begun to see and appreciate the person she, herself, is. It is clear that Alex and Jen really love each other and the fruit of their relationship is evidence of that.

My hope in thinking about your wedding, Jen and Alex, is that you will have the party of your lives! Don’t worry about pleasing everyone else — do what you WANT to do for and at the ceremony and reception. I made the mistake of not enjoying my guests to the fullest at my wedding reception (including an uncle I would never see again), leaving in a hurry to get to the “honeymoon” and I regret to this day missing that special time with the people I loved most in the world (many of whom had traveled to be there from afar). Wear what you want, have the ceremony the way you want it, sit where you want, stand where you want, eat what you want, etc. Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do on this special occasion. Once the planning and preparation is finished (on the day of the ceremony), just enjoy it. Nothing is perfect but if you can truly enjoy the experience, you will take these happy memories with you throughout the rest of your lives.

~Laurie Leblanc

* Laurie Leblanc is a chemistry professor at Cuyumaca College and a maker of beautiful things at Ivy Gate Cottage. Check out her lovely blog here.

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The road from here to there…

Hi all –

I apologize for my month long absence.

I have been hard at work making dough to pay for our event.

Yeah—- something like that. Thank you Dogg.

There are oh so many things surfacing that need to be done… PAID FOR.

To all of my married friends… I had no idea.

This beast is all consuming. Not just $$, but energy and passion. The instant Alex and I start talking about things… it turns into a fight. Planning a wedding is the perfect pre-marital counseling. You have to employ all of your negotiation, compromise and sacrifice skills. Many of them I am creating as I go along, I find myself perpetually unprepared for the drama we are facing. Some is even coming from within the family… what the &*%$ man? All I am trying to do is throw a good party and have my friends and family around. It’s been tough and we can make it through IKEA without fighting.. this wedding biz-nasty is no joke!

  • We picked our photographer
    • She is an amazingly talented artist – I am so excited to meet at our engagement shoot.
  • We found our caker
    • We’re going to try a spin on the traditional – but NOT cupcakes…

Also – I have a fabulous gym buddy and we have been working out 3-4x per week.  Though I have been trying to eat better and stave off alcohol, neither of us are seeing the results that we want. I am going to have to make some major dietary changes in order to get to where I want to be.  I do not want to starve myself or become a gym rat – but something has to give.

The thing is, many of us want to see results right away. However, we spend months, even years, earning the body that we are not happy with. Some overeat; others fall into a sedentary lifestyle or drink too much booze. It does not erase itself overnight just because I have decided to take a Zumba class or two.

For me, this will equate to running first thing in the morning and eating clean – think lean proteins and steamed veggies with a cheat day (meal) on the weekends. When I was in my early 20’s I was a fitness trainer and group class instructor. I achieved a body fat percentage of 7% which is a tough thing to do for most women. My lifestyle at that time was not healthy mostly supplements and meal replacement bars. I began to look a bit more cut and bulky than I had intended and then swore off the gym. However the pendulum has swung the other way and now I am behaving as though I do not know what it takes to get in shape or how it is that I got here, kinda chubby.

However on this leap day, a magical rare day, I will begin taking the steps necessary to earn the body I want – the healthy body for my psyche and future –and make it a reality. Annelice and I did interval training runs today at lunch and I will return to the gym after work to run again and either kick box or do some weights.

Coming soon there will be guest posts from some of my amazing friends and family who are incredibly talented in their fields and have graciously agreed to share their invaluable knowledge of many facets of the wedding day – health, beauty, décor, music, event planning etc.  Real advice from real people, that’s how we do.

Stay tuned and posted!

As always, thank you so much for reading.

Jenni G.

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